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LGBT people and the Arts

January 30th, 2012 by kaleidoscope

One common stereotype for LGBT people is that they are artistic. So many famous dancers, actors, singers, painters, and writers were/are LGBT. As with other stereotypes, most of the time they are simplistic generalizations, but there is often some truth in them. Why might LGBT people be attracted to artistic hobbies and professions?

            The choral director during my freshman year at Goshen College spoke with us about why music is a gift for oppressed groups of people. He specifically addressed the pain of LGBT people, telling us music was one place where LGBT people could be themselves. He wanted the men’s choir to sing a song with Walt Whitman’s text about same-sex romantic feelings. Although we were unable to sing that particular song, we sang Schubert’s “Sehnsucht,” which speaks about same-sex desire, and sang other deeply poignant pieces of sadness and pain. That year of choir had a profound impact on me, as I was not “out” to many people at that time. I was a voice minor, which required a sophomore recital. As I prepared that year and at the beginning of my sophomore year, I put all of the feeling that I felt I needed to hide into my pieces, especially the ones about love and loss.

            The majority of LGBT people grow up in heterosexual communities and are assumed to be heterosexual or cisgender. The construction and affirmation of an LGBT identity is often done in isolation as many LGBT people feel that they must hide or repress their expression of love out of fear of exclusion. Art offers a means to express identity and experience in ways that can speak to an LGBT experience without being dismissed by dominate heterosexual or cisgender expectation. LGBT themes that are not as apparent to the majority of cisgender or heterosexual people, can be understood by LGBT people who have felt or feel the same way.

            Even for people that are “out,” often have a need for artistic expression. Most art represents cisgender heterosexual relationships, so LGBT people need art that speaks to their experience.  LGBT art can be a place to draw awareness to LGBT issues to the rest of society. Instances like Chaz Bono’s appearance on Dancing with the Stars have brought the topic of transgender lives into everyone’s home, presenting a chance for conversation and education about lives that are often misunderstood and/or invisible.

            Art can be a powerful tool to promote solidarity for oppressed groups. For example, the civil rights movement used music to unify and protest against racial discrimination. Four-part harmony hymns are a significant part of the Church of the Brethren and Mennonite denomination’s worship and identity. At BMC’s recent gathering the LGBT participants, many of us with histories of rejection from these faith traditions, sang our hymns in part to reclaim a piece of our identity.

            At the last two Mennonite conventions the Pink Menno movement organized and participated in hymn sings to heighten awareness of LGBT people within the church. They created a space for allies to join in solidarity with their LGBT brothers and sisters. The Pink Menno hymn sing at the Pittsburgh Mennonite convention was a powerful experience for me. I was amazed to spot an individual who was an estranged church mentor for me in the group singing. This person was not as supportive of my calling to go into the ministry after they found out that I was gay. I went and stood beside them, but they didn’t notice my presence until the singing was over. So surprised and happy to see me, they turned and embraced me in a warm hug. I experienced this as an expression of apology and love without saying a word. I’m thankful to God for using that hymn sing to begin a process of reconciliation.

            Art can be a place for LGBT to break their silence and reach out to others. They have a chance to reach out to other LGBT people with common experiences. For those that feel isolated, they can find hope in knowing others understand what they are going through. Knowledge of that shared identity creates solidarity. Art can also create the opportunity for allies in the church to reach out, showing LGBT people they care and are willing to help make the church a more welcoming place.  

 

 

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Building solidarity through telling our stories

November 7th, 2011 by kaleidoscope

Last month I attended my first BMC Gathering.  After corresponding by phone and e-mail, it was great to meet and speak face-to-face with members of the BMC LGBT community. Sharing and preserving our stories were important aspects of the event. Several people attending had their stories recorded for historical records and there were several evenings when people told stories from their “coming out” journeys.

 Last fall, I studied the theological significance of stories in my Bible, Religion, and Philosophy senior seminar class. Every class we were asked to share stories directly related to the theological theme assigned for that week. The class coincided with me beginning to be more “out” on campus, and I chose to be honest in the assignment and share my “coming out” stories. I found it to be liberating and healing, after so many years of holding those stories within me, to finally be able to tell them to others. It was the first time I had written and spoken about several of my stories in a semi-organized narrative. To family and friends, I had shared most of my stories, but they were told in bits and pieces. That class was a safe space for me and my peers to be vulnerable about those sacred stories that were so close to our hearts.

 I’ve learned that sharing stories holds the possibility of building solidarity. I told parts of my coming out journey to attendees of the Gathering during the weekend. When we share our stories we create a window for others to catch a glimpse of our experience. During the Gathering, I found similarities between my story and others. I laughed at the shared awkwardness of “coming out,” and at times was reminded of how serious “coming out” can be. When we share our stories to other LGBT we allow ourselves a chance to see that we are not alone.  When we tell our trusted allies, we give a chance for them to show us their support and love.

For me, an important step in my “coming out” journey was acknowledging and learning that God was present to support me. It was a comfort during those early years to know I was not the only one who knew I was struggling to figure out my sexuality. It is a comfort to know I can still turn to God. Whether you find support through faith or friends it is important to know you are not alone.

-Reuben Sancken

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Journey to the BMC Community

September 12th, 2011 by kaleidoscope

I remember being aware of the existence of Brethren Mennonite Council (BMC) early on in my process of coming out.  I probably discovered it on the internet through my own exploration on a search engine, or it was found and brought to my attention by an immediate family member. In either case, I did not expect to join or be employed by the BMC community in the future.

            I’ve grown up in the Mennonite faith tradition. My relationship with the Mennonite church has been a confusing and disorienting experience: At times I’ve been embraced and at other times I felt like I was being pushed away.  Generally, I felt welcomed by those I came out to in the church. While I’ve had those supportive people, I still have internalized a feeling of being excluded after years of knowing church statements and documents that tell me I’m not welcome if I wish to be in a same-sex committed relationship. I felt a calling to church ministry in my mid-teenage years, which I was vocal about to my home church community.  My sexuality for the majority has been kept silent, and I only came out to my immediate family during high school. I went to Goshen College, and it was there that I encountered BMC again. As a student leader, I attended “safe zone” training, which used BMC materials. For the large part of my experience in the Mennonite church I’ve remained in the closet, gradually telling friends and mentors in college and considered myself “out” my last semester.

            When I was making post-graduation plans, I decided to do a year or two of voluntary service in a church affiliated program.  I was not interested in Mennonite Voluntary Service, because I knew if I chose that program I would remain more closeted. Family recommended that I leave the church to find another denomination that is more welcoming, and they recommended that I apply for Lutheran Volunteer Corps. I was immediately excited when I found on the application that the organization embraces openly LGBT volunteers. When I searched for volunteer placements I found the Kaleidoscope Coordinator position at BMC was open for the upcoming year. I chose to apply for the position for several reasons, but one of the biggest reasons was that I felt like I hadn’t really given the church a chance. Not wanting to give up being Mennonite, a key part of my identity, I chose to serve at BMC. It is the only place I feel like I can authentically serve the Mennonite church at this point. I have spent the large part of my struggle with the Mennonite church on my own, or with the help of straight allies. One of the greatest blessings so far at my job has been the welcome from the LGBT Brethren and Mennonite Community. I thank you for your support!

            I am very excited about my upcoming year of serving BMC! I hope to promote BMC for those that do not know of its existence and bring attention to the resources we offer by working on updating the website and creating promotional internet videos. Over the last few years, I’ve been exposed to the multilayered ways that people are oppressed. The intensity of alienation becomes magnified when levels of privilege that differ from the perceived norm intersect. BMC ministers and welcomes all LGBT Mennonites and Brethren and their supporters, but I realize some may feel excluded. As a white man, I know I carry the biases and shortsightedness that contribute to the exclusion of people of color. I want BMC to be a place where people of color know that they are genuinely being welcomed. I would love to find a way to talk with anyone who identifies as nonwhite about your experience. How can BMC be helpful? What does BMC need to do to be a more just and inclusive community?  I’m looking forward to building a better community!

 -Reuben Sancken

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Kirsten’s parting thoughts (but not final thoughts!)

August 5th, 2011 by kaleidoscope

It has been a privilege to spend the last two years at BMC. I leave with the sense that the work I have done is part of a much larger whole. I am grateful for all of you who have been doing this for many years, who created space and a platform that I could join. And I am grateful for all of you who are beginning to think about when and how you can contribute to a church and society that is inclusive of lgbt people.

Metaphors help me get my head around big ideas, and one I have come to recently is using wind to think about three aspects of BMC’s work (as well as the larger lgbt justice movement). Wind creates waves, wind can turn turbines, and wind fills our sails. I don’t often allow myself to publicly dig into my sometimes far-fetched metaphors, but I decided to indulge myself on this occasion. Feel no obligation to continue reading!

Wind creates waves, and together they are a steady, continuous force of change on the landscape. Sometimes change happens quickly and dramatically, and sometimes it can only be seen with hindsight. As individuals we slowly transform the world, people, institutions and systems around us with every small choice and action. When as family members, friends, and lgbtq people we make choices to share our values, beliefs, and actions openly so that the world will see and hear.

Wind can turn turbines, and with our will and ingenuity we can build them - we can create systems that make more effective use of the power that is in the wind, create a larger more immediate impact, and create infrastructure that will sustain this into the future. Together we can get organized and educated. We can join with others who are doing this work, and continue to build partnerships and relationships that allow us to do the most work with the available energy and resources. We can learn (and keep learning) about lgbtq people, about social justice movements, and about larger systems of oppression and privilege.

Wind also fills our sails. As we engage in the work of changing our world, we must always remember to keep each other going, to make sure people stranded offshore don’t go unnoticed. Especially for those of us who have been able to access a community where we can live an openly and relatively affirmed and hassle-free life, it is easy to forget that it may not have always been this way for us, and it certainly is not that way for many. We must continue to find ways to support people in “our” own community, to create open (and visible) doors to our communities, and to continually reach out to the proverbial stranger.

We can each contribute our breath to this wind that creates change. It has been an honour to serve with BMC in a particularly focussed way the past couple of years, and I look forward to continuing to work and stand with all of you for many more years to come. In September I will be moving (back) to Winnipeg, Mantioba and looking for work, unless something materializes (fingers crossed) between now and then. Although I’m originally from London, Ontario, I have lived in Winnipeg before, and am very much looking forward to reconnecting with many wonderful people there. For anyone who would like to stay in touch, emails can be forwarded through the BMC office. I also plan to be at the BMC Community Gathering in October (see NewsNet article), and hope to see some of you there!

Peace and strength,
Kirsten Freed

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Pink Menno campaign

March 3rd, 2009 by Luke

So there’s a group of really cool, really hip folks getting together some focused actions to start good conversations at the upcoming Mennonite convention in Columbus this summer about queer folks.   It will apparently involve wearing lots of pink.  We’re like the gay Mennonite version of the Obama campaign, that’s how cool and tech-savvy we are.   To join just go to: pinkmennocapmpaign.ning.com

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Proposition Hate

November 11th, 2008 by Luke

Tuesday was quite the night. I found my way to Grant Park (coveted tickets for the official campaign event in hand) and joined the crowd of a hundred thousand gathered to scream, cry, hug, and jump our way into a new spirit of hopefulness that is solidifying around us.

Besides Obama’s victory, there was another vote that meant a lot to me on Tuesday, and left a lingering bittersweetness to the otherwise perfect night: Proposition 8 amended the California constitution to define legal marriage as exclusive to opposite-sex couples, overturning the decision of the Supreme Court and ending the right of California same-sex couples to the legal protections of marriage for the near future.

Initial reaction: rage. I found someone who expressed this very very well:

Ultimately, though, rage against injustice must energize something else, something life-affirming.

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Presentations from San Francisco Conference

August 8th, 2007 by Katie

Among the highlights of the BMC conference in San Francisco at the beginning of July were three wonderful presentations by Carol Wise, Jay Johnson, and Sheri Hostetler. These are now available at the BMC website. They are inspiring and challenging and it would be well worth your time to check them out. For a little context, the theme of the conference was For Just Such a Time: Living Out the Call and the scripture for the weekend was the book of Esther.

On Dignity and Queens: Esther 1

Carol Wise is the Executive Director of BMC and is also my boss. Carol spoke on Saturday. Carol graduated from Iliff School of Theology.

 

Beyond Apology and Tolerance: Queer Gifts in Our Own Backyard
The keynote address on Saturday evening was given by the Rev. Jay E. Johnson, Ph.D. Johnson is on the faculty at Pacific School of Religion, and the Acting Executive Director of the Center for Lesbian and Gay Studies in Religion and Ministry in Berkeley. He has published articles on the intersections of spirituality and Christian theology, as well as his 2005 book, Dancing with God: Anglican Christianity and the Practice of Hope. Jay is an Episcopal priest, and serves the Episcopal Church of the Good Shepherd in Berkeley.

Becoming the Subject of Our Lives
Sheri Hostetler, pastor of First Mennonite Church of an Francisco, spoke during worship on Sunday. Sheri, a graduate of the Episcopal Divinity School, has been the pastor at First Mennonite Church for seven years. She has been a long-time advocate for LGBT inclusion in the church. Sheri is also a poet and a contributor to A Cappella: Mennonite Voices in Poetry.

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